… broken but loved



I think Thomas has come to the conclusion that, I, his wife, is a clutz. A trip over nothing, break the unbreakable, lose everything, can’t work the TV remote kinda girl.

And, I know it drives him crazy. Especially when he gets a phone call that begin with, “sooooo…….. As I was….” are common.

So……. As I was backing out of the garage today, I backed INTO the garage door. I was going to work. At the school we run. But, now I’m trapped inside the house.
I make that phone call & my very calm husband (who is in terrible pain!) handled everything and his brother is coming to my rescue.

As if they have nothing else to do.
(These Mayes men are something else…. Always so patient & understanding even in the midst of craziness…..)

While I waited, I read my devotion from Morning & Evening & was brought to complete tears. Spurgeon reminds us that God loves us inspite of our “spots”, our wandering hearts, and sin. That this mighty God we serve doesn’t allow US to get in the way of his love for us….. That he loves us with as much fervor after the offense as he did before.

I needed to hear that.
I needed to be reminded that THAT is love. That very action of kindness, forgiveness, redemption, acceptance, & hope IS LOVE.

Our Father’s love redeems us and restores. His love never fails nor falters because of who we are – naturally sinful people who want no part of light or goodness. A God who knows that it’s only because of his choice to bring us to him, that we love him. How many people love like that? Who love “anyway”??

It’s very easy in the culture we live in today to think love is anything but or many other things AND what is told to us in the word. We find our confidence and happiness in the world’s love forgetting that that love is faulty, expectant, insecure, & selfish.
The world’s love doesn’t make us better, it doesn’t heal us, or give us any type of hope. Instead it makes us jealous, quarrelsome, & angry.

I was encouraged today, by the response of my husband and the truth of the word, to find every ounce of confidence, joy, hope, & truth in the love of Christ. To be grateful for those who display THIS type of love & to BE that love to everyone around me.

To be gentle enough to comfort. Kind enough to forgive. Understanding & present enough to remember the merciless grace & “anyway” love that’s shown towards me to the next person who offends me no matter how deeply or intentionally – because I do the same thing. Committed enough to keep giving and submitting through the tests of time.

… here’s to loving like I’m loved.


… of great worth


What a promise.
This is a promise full of rich & heavy rewards for the wife and woman who seek after God & who are determined to live counter culturally. Which isn’t easy.

Our culture doesn’t honor a woman who is gentle & quiet. One who doesn’t always have to respond to every action or word spoken to her. One who knows when to speak & does so in such a way to her wisdom is heard and accepted.

The culture & our negative experiences have led us to believe that the only way to be strong is to be loud, aggressive, & cutting. The world we live in today wouldn’t advise you to be meek & gentle because you’ll be taken advantage of and abused.

But, then the culture betrays us and puts us on this merry-go-round of emotions because we’re hurt & angey when our men don’t respect us, when they won’t lead, & retreat.
The culture won’t tell you that the way it’s programming you to think will tear down your man and your very own home. It will have you truly believing that this way, aggressive & boisterous, is the way to protect yourself and to remain true to yourself. But, it will forget to warn you about your children & how they will learn to live and love/respect other men & women in their lives. It won’t tell you that your chosen way of life will create more conflict than peaceable situations.

I pray that you will see how important it is and how good it is for us as women & wives to walk in the way God laid out for us. I pray that we place attributes and character traits that He loves and finds beautiful above the ones that the culture prefers.
I pray that you see the influence you are able to have in your home, workplace, church, & community just by knowing how and when to say what truly needs to be said. I pray that you seek wisdom and ask God to mold you into the Godly woman/mother/wife He would have you to be. I urge you to find other women in your communities who are gentle & quiet in spirit who will help you along the way.
In Jesus’ name!!
At times, we have a backwards way of looking at life. We tend to think that the louder, flashier, and “bigger” we are, the more attention we will get. I challenge this perspective. The quiet, more humble one who is busy serving may not get the most attention first, but soon her worth will be recognized and she will be honored. She is confident- she doesn’t need to be loud. She is wise- she understands that if she busy trying to get the attention of others, she isn’t focused on the task at hand. She doesn’t focus completely on out shining anyone because she knows who she is and for what she’s here for. She’s not looking for the approval or acknowledgment of the culture or anyone drawn to it.

Her God is pleased, her husband is respected, her children have a Godly role model, & her home is peaceful.

This week, pray that the Holy Spirit urges you to be gentle & quiet. Ask God to develop a spirit in which He will be pleased. And, pray that you will be sensitive to the spirit’s nudges and whispers.

For a woman of noble character is worth far more than rubies.

… here’s to being worthy. (Straighten your crowns, ladies!)