me, too.

me tooI saw this on a Facebook friend’s timeline and it just made my heart so heavy and light at the same time.

There are so many times we watch our friends go through hurts and difficult experiences and we want to fix them right up. We want to bandage their wounds, fill them with comforting words and tasty food and wine, and send them off with perfect step by step instructions of “if I were you” kind of advice… But, y’all, while we ought to share wisdom and there are time we have to say hard things, everything has a perfect time. We look at other women from afar in difficult situations or hurting and we label them with all sorts of names and discuss the reasons why they’re in the position they’re in and what they need to do to better their situation. And, ya’ll, that’s not our job either.

When we see another sister hurting, if we know they’re hurting and going through a difficult season, our job is to love in action. Not in theory or the idea of loving someone.
Simply because we aren’t gossiping doesn’t mean we are being loving.
Love does something.
Quietly. Without selfish ambition or desire for control.
It doesn’t seek to put you down or rub your nose in your mistake.

Love stands shoulder to shoulder and digs deep with their friend. When we hurt, we usually just want a friend to sit with us, to listen to us, and feed us all the yummy food and hardcore drinks while we let it all out. We want to know that we aren’t alone. We want to know we are understood and no matter how bad the situation is or how bad our choice or response was, that we will still be loved. There is definitely a time for the tough love and words of wisdom and hard words, but when we know we are loved and accepted, we’re more likely to be receptive of that discipline.

Hurting alone is hard. It’s lonely and there is wisdom found in wise counsel, but before we begin doling out all of our well intended advice, love in action. Sit and listen…. Figure out what your friend needs and provide that and wine. Wine pairs well with everything. Then just aknowleding that while you may not have ever travelled down her road, you are there. That you love her. That she’s loved. And, if you authentically can, a “me, too, sister. Me, too.” isn’t bad either. Because on some level we have all had the same hurts – we’ve all been betrayed, hurt deeply, or just had a less than sunny day.

Never minimize who you are or can be to someone:
your shoulder against hers may be just what she needs to stand a little bit taller.

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the rock

charlesOne of my greatest lessons of 2015 was watching the blessings of God unfold before me because of the waves that slammed me into
The Rock.

In You, O LORD, I have taken refuge; Let me never be ashamed;
In Your righteousness deliver me. Incline Your ear to me, rescue me quickly;
Be to me a rock of strength, A stronghold to save me.
For You are my rock and my fortress;
For Your name’s sake You will lead me and guide me.

{Psalm 31: 1 – 3}

The Lord is our rock…. the provider of safety, comfort, protection, provision, forgiveness…. he freely and unconditionally gives love, peace, mercy, and grace. We can freely go to him to any of these things and more. He is the provider of every possible need & spiritually, emotionally, or physically.

Just as we wouldn’t expect our children to be ashamed of asking us to meet a need or how we encourage them to tell us what they want, the because of Christ’s death and resurrection, we are redeemed and forgiven….  able to come before the Lord with confidence. As parents, we often give to our babes out of our love for them knowing that “s/he’ll really like this…”- the Lord does the same for us as his children. He withholds no good thing from us.

And, because of all. of. that there’s no shame in being so broken and hurt that you aren’t strong enough to stand before him. Sometimes, we make our way to the Lord on all fours, crawling, then laying in the fetal position at his feet. But, as he strengthens us, as our perspectives are focused more on who He is than what is going on around us, we’re able to stand on that Rock. With boldness and confidence.

It’s only in God that we’re able to stand firm in any situation and speak his truths back to him… we’re able to allow those truths affirm who he is and who we are in him. And, we can pray, praise, and worship in a place of confidence, keeping our eyes on Him versus taking all of our hard stuff back and worrying about it. Allowing it to cripple us, weaken us, and distract us.

For to us a child is born, to us a son is given, and the government will be on his shoulders. And he will be called Wonderful Counselor, Mighty God, Everlasting Father, Prince of Peace.
Isaiah 9:6

As in any relationship, there are moments when our weaknesses and fears are exposed and shared. It’s only in the safety of that space  we’re able to openly share our deepest regrets, dreams, hopes, and embarrassments. It’s also in those moments, we’re creating depth and building trust.

That trust, depth, and honesty is what the Lord longs for with us. He is our Comforter, our Provider, our Peace, and our Refuge. He also rejoices over us with singing, gives us good gifts, and loves us immensely, he knows us.

We know that our battles and struggles, hurts, and disappointments aren’t with flesh and blood but against darkness…. So, have you considered that what God is truly protecting us against is evil? Like, the devil. The rulers of darkness. I’m thinking that just as we won’t ever be able to comprehend the fullness of God’s goodness, love, and grace, we will never be able to comprehend the level of evil that is in darkness. But, we don’t have to. When we are hidden in the Lord, he protects us by providing us with wisdom, discernment, wise counsel, and most of all, the Holy Spirit to guide us.

We can go to God, give him our cares and concerns, and dance in peace with joy on our Rock as he rejoices of over us with singing. We can rest in him knowing that he is working all things out together for our good.

We can kiss the waves… the can authentically smile through adversity. We can be patient in affliction.
Joyful in the storms because we know that our God is with us.
We ought to be forever indebted to the booming waves that cause us to draw closer to our Lord.

How beautiful is that?

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SHOP SMALL SATURDAY!!

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Heck yes!! When I tell you I love, love, love shopping small!! It’s the most fun and gratifying experience!

I have shopped small for the girls since before they were born (ha) and I have formed real relationships with quite a few of the mamas behind these amazing brands! I’ve also shopped small for myself and I never, ever regret it!

A promise was made during my Periscope today about my favorite shops and I’m making good on it!!!

Here are my favorite baby shops:

@twinkiebands
@potatofeet
@augie and lola
@bloomieshandmade
@rubyblueoriginals
@andysachs

My favorite small shops for mamas are:
@fightappareldesigns
Ezra + Eli
Loved by Hannah and Eli

My girls Danielle and Mary keep my blog up to date and any graphic needs I have poppin!
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Mary Hess

I had an idea or two about tees that I wanted to see come to life that didn’t quite fit in the Arise brand Krystle and I started … but, we definitely they should be printed and sold. So, here they are. One of a few that will be sold right here on my blog! I love that I have the space and ability to have these ideas that roll around in my imagination printed on tees. It’s amazing and I’m so excited!

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We, teachers, don’t have the easiest jobs ever and it’s always nice to be shown the appreciation you guys feel on a daily! You can find there shirt over here… it’s a perfect time to buy for your kiddo’s teacher as the season of giving is upon us!

And, of course, I talk non-stop about Plexus…. you can find more info on that amazing-ness over here.
So good if you’re struggling with blood sugar issues, diabetes, irritability, intestinal issues (IBS, diverticulitis, etc.), and AI disease (Lupus, MS), skin inflammation (eczema, acne, psoriasis), food/sugar allergies, thyroid issues, or need to lose/gain (yes, gain) weight, etc. It’s amazing all around! Check it out!
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All so very exciting!!!
I hope you guys genuinely consider supporting us mamas who are just doing what we love!!!

Have an amazing Thanksgiving Day!
Gobble, gobble!

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