pressing forward

“Make the best of it.”

A gritty, mind-over-matter belief that has been the underlying tone of the past few years. That and having a hope that sees and believes that what I’m working for, working on, and working through will benefit others, my children, and myself.

Sometimes it frustrating to have this hope that won’t die and a spirit that can and does endure hard things. So, I’ve learned to make the best of it. Whatever “it” is. And, “best” looks different on a different days.

One part of pressing forward means seeing situations with a different perspective and in a new way.

And, it sucks. It can be so very hard, it takes some real emotional maturity and fortitude to accept facts of a hard reality.

But…. it gets so good, sister. It can get so stinking good & worth the crap when we are able to develop through hard times.

One of the things I’ve had to see in a new way and redefine is the idea of a family. My picture of a family has always been parents and a child/children. So even when my ex and I were married with no children, I saw us as a couple. When we had kids, we became a family. When we split and I became a single mama ……. I didn’t know what we were. Just a woman with some kids??

I had to redefine every aspect of life and my expectations of myself, my ex and what the future could look like. The transitions were so tough and I crumbled (or felt like I did) many, many times. but if there was one thing the Lord taught me during that time was that I can get through hard things. And, better than that …. I can thrive and laugh…. my hope & strength can be restored and all things really can be made new.

You may have needed or even still be needing some really BIG things to turn around. And, if you’re like me, you may not even see and recognize how the restoration of the little things cause the BIG things to change.

The Lord began restoring my mindset. He renewed how I saw myself & my children. He restored hope in what could be and renewed my trust in Him. And, does it everyday.

Maybe you have big goals and big dreams for your business…….. focusing on the basic, small tasks could be one of many ways things can begin to move the direction you’re desiring them to go. Redefining the word “hard” and “scary” to “challenging” and “exciting” totally shift your outlook. I may not want to do something scary, but I’m always up for something exciting!

Am I suggesting you pump yourself full of falsehoods to make yourself feel good for a moment? No. I’m suggesting you scoot over a bit and see the situation from a different perspective.

We’ve all received a gift we didn’t initially think was very cool or exciting. Until we flipped it over. Or started playing with it. And, understood what it did. Once we got an understanding & a different perspective, that information completely changed how we saw the gift.

Same thing.

We may be in the thick of something we don’t quite understand. We may be looking at a person or circumstances unsure of how all of this works or the benefit of this trait or “that” happening………… but instead of trashing it. Instead of quitting. Instead of becoming frustrated in the process, we may need to ask the Lord to allow us to see it with fresh eyes and a new understanding.

We’ll be able to make the best of anything with a Godly perspective and a willingness to be open to what he’s asking us to do while he’s working it all out for our good, but most important his glory.



  1. this reminds me so much of how I felt in my late 20s – mid 30’s.

    Three things that Ive held on to from all the tough times :

    1.) most never learn anything … the smart ones learn from their mistakes ….geniuses learn from other people’s mistakes ( Im rarely a genius but try to be cognizant of the importance of what the meaning of this saying means for my children) 2.) its never quite how you picture it ….finally 3.) this too shall pass.

    I just turned 50 this year ….and while I dont claim to have it all figured out. The biggest gifts I would leave my children would be optimism and faith.

    I feel like you are accomplishing exactly that with this blog. I love how honest and thoughtful you are throughout your writing. How you choose to look at the brighter side…..simply because that is a choice. Something we can control….when all the uncontrollables knock us down.

    Thank-u for sharing your story!

    • Oh friend……. thank you so much for sharing your wisdom and insight. I try…… it’s the best option and really one I’m thankful I want to choose. Hasn’t always been that way so the mindset shift has been difficult but such a blessing!

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