Intentional + unapologetic

Hey, y’all, hey!!!

It’s been a minute, but here I am with a few guiding thoughts I’m confident in and excited about.

A bit of background first…….

Many of my shifts come out of thoughts that were ignited by another thought from another category in life that just snowballed and ended up wrecking every area. Things collide, the Lord speaks. And BAM!!! At the concluding thought, nothing makes sense but it all makes sense at the same time.

The concluding thought:

I deserve better. I deserve more. (photo by Rhyann)

Now, the origin. (Remember, none of these thoughts individually lead to the concluding thought. Don’t judge the randomness!! Lol)

1. I earned a free cruise (Celebrity Equinox!) to Key West & The Bahamas. For 5 days, I transformed into someone I’ve never been – a 35 year old who didn’t have to take care of another person…. share her food, wipe a booty, fetch a snack, break up a fight, threaten to spank, or roll my eyes at the mini versions of me who are acting just like me towards me. (Gracious!) It was fabulous, I looked fabulous, and felt fabulous.

See proof below:

2. (completely unrelated to #1) My company launched a 14 day weight loss challenge in prep for the holidays. A way to get a handle on our cravings + eating habits so that we won’t overindulge and gain unnecessary (& tough to lose) pounds over the next couple of months. I dubbed it the “control yo’self challenge” bc that’s what it’ll help us do, whether our goals are to lose weight or not! One of the products in the combo is a whey protein meal replacement/snack. Whey is incredible, if you’re curious as to why, email me and I’ll totally spill all the plant based, quality protein tea for ya!

A piece of this challenge is also fitness…. obviously moving your booty helps you to lose weight, so it only makes sense! I’ve committed to moving my booty a few times a week. Also inviting you (if you’re local + not a murderer) to walk Rice University & have breakfast afterwards. If you’re interested, email me. I’ll shoot ya the deets.

And, it dawned on me.

Why am I waiting to BEGIN working on goals at the start of the new year versus getting started now so that when January 1 rolls around I’m already positioned to win. That’s kinda like BeyoncĂ© beginning to prepare for OTR on the first day of the tour or your favorite basketball player kicking it during all off season then wanting to eat right & workout when the season begins. Or, (last example) your kid’s teacher not giving you a list of supplies until the first day of school. Doesn’t make much sense, right? OF COURSE we aren’t farther ahead!! But we do that every single week, month, & year…….. we wait procrastinate, choose to be lazy, & ‘enjoy a bit more’, and put off til “tomorrow”. We start on the start date. Instead of “rolling through” the starting line; beginning already in motion.

That’s kinda where I am now. And, committing to not walking around looking like a bum 5-6 days out of the week (bc I work from home) & only being fabulous on Sundays or a few days out of the year. I deserve that.

…… and, here’s where the good stuff begins …….

I deserve that, not because my name is Alaina or because I’ve had a really hard past five years. But, because I’m choosing to intentionally work towards it. My girls deserve more, I deserve more.

The girls broke a pair of my favorite sunglasses & I went to pick up another pair before the trip. I initially wanted to find a “sensible” pair, but tossed that idea out of the window because life is both too long and too short for boring. For waiting until a ‘special occasion’ or ‘someday’. for living below our capacity, for remaining in our comfort zones, and not shooting for the big stuff. The hard stuff. The best stuff that is possible to experience when we choose to grow and live boldly outside of our comfort zones. (photo by Logan)

We are in control of so much and we take that for granted. We decide the what and when we’re prepared and if we do the work, and at the right time… in God’s perfect timing….. magic happens.

“Some changes look negative on the surface, but you will soon realize that space is being created in your life for something new to emerge.” – Eckhart Tolle

What do you want?

To be a better conversationalist?

Better health?

Deeper friendships?

Great! So, what are you doing about? Spending quality time? Reading books, listening to podcasts? Asking for help? Doing the things you don’t want to do? Don’t like to do? Don’t feel like doing? So that you can raise your lid (capacity) in those areas and be better??

“The credit belongs to the man in who is actually in the arena……. who at the best knows in the end the triumph of high achievement, and who at the worst, if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly.” – Theodore Roosevelt

(photo by Rhyann)

A rising tide lifts all the boats, right??

Committing to do better in one area, creates discipline that will for sure spill over in others areas of your life…. so, all boats rise. Committing to do better means taking risks, stepping outside of your comfort zone, and doing something new…… which will for sure open you up to other opportunities that you’ll be more willing to take. Opportunities that could essentially change your life.

Have you ever seen the movie Sliding Doors? Gwyneth Paltrow made one solitary choice that changed her whole life. Her new life was definitely worth the scary, hard choice she made.

Think life change isn’t possible? Seriously, do you believe that ‘it is what it is’? Or, are you hopeful? Of course you are…. that’s why we go into every year with the idea that this year will be different than last year.

Don’t you want to truly do more?! What are you shooting for? How do you want to be better?

So, in 2019, we’re hitting goals. We’re going to mature spiritually and emotionally. We’re going to raise our emotional IQ, going to learn how to be better mamas, have tough convos, do new things, we’re going to prioritize ourselves, and take better care of ourselves. We’re raising standards for ourselves and kiddos. Because we all deserve (and are working for) the best.

We’re going to be more than people full of wishes and hopes and, ultimately, regrets. We’re going to work. Going to commit. Going to keep at it. Going to dare greatly and choose a better tomorrow each day. And, we aren’t going to apologize for working hard to end each day, week, month, and year better than we began.

Are you with me?(photo by Rhyann)

Intentional and unapologetic in 2019.



  1. Natalie Brown says:

    Love this girl

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